The gift of ageing

I was assisting at the hospital pastoral care yesterday morning. I realize that I was most touched by the elderly I visited. And I noticed that in several wards, the elderly make up almost half the number of patients. A couple of people were well into their eighties, frail, yet clear in mind. From such persons, I was greatly encouraged by their willingness to be 'visited' - they seem to welcome a listening ear. It was also humbling to see how they have accepted their limitations (for example, no longer being mobile and having to be at home most of the time, whilst previously, as one man said, he could walk to church from his house). Yet, despite their frailty, they wished to be back home as soon as their condition allows.

There were also a couple of people who were rather ill and unable to respond to visitors. It is a challenge to just be there, in silent presence, perhaps touching their hand, and trust that God would make use of that simple act of compassion. Deep down, there is a feeling of helplessness and desire to see them well. But there is also the invitation, rather, to learn that life is fragile and limited. And there is a time to be on the receiving end of care - in a way that blesses the givers.

The elderly seem to be increasing in our population, as healthcare improves. Maybe this is a group that churches can be more focused on, to develop a spirituality of ageing; to inform others of the needs and the graces of ageing well in spirit, while the body grows more and more frail. And moreover, to prepare people for the last journey 'Home'.