CPE 4

It is not getting any more relaxing as we enter the fourth week of CPE, and actually the midway point. But it remains challenging and much new learning takes place; especially valuable because it is based on practicum. Theoretical input however useful is only half the picture.

This week I had the chance to visit with some elderly. They are always ready to welcome visitors and have someone to talk with. I guess their attention span for reading or TV is not long and most of the time they sit or lie, just whiling away the time and not connecting with the external world. It brought me right into the reality of an elderly person's life. The most common feeling was "uselessness" and the next was "loneliness", even when feeling words are not used. My heart went out to them; more so when I notice coping strategies they have adopted to adapt to their new situation. This is a fast world - and people in the prime of life have no time, these days to spend time with the elderly. They may provide physical care for their parent, but their available time with them is neglected.

My own reaction started off with sadness and empathy- after understanding their needs. There were times I tried to provide general 'answers' like "We all grow old one day...." or "We are still valuable in God's eyes..." (to Christians). But I realize it does not "work" if I say it merely to give an answer and assuage my helplessness.

Ultimately, I had to prayerfully trust that my visit, and the presence and attention extended to them, would 'speak' of God's love and value for them as his creatures. No need for clever thoughts and explanations. It is humbling to know that I am inadequate, only one human taking the hand of another fellow human being.